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Fran Drescher Is Your Gay Wedding Officiant

Huppah Dreams

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John Blair, Beto Sutter, and Fran Drescher last week.(Tina Fineberg/NYT)

Each Monday, we choose the most interestingly Jewish announcement from that Sunday’s New York Times Weddings/Celebrations section. This week it’s that of John Blair and Beto Sutter, and for once, it’s because of the officiant, and at this point the post will turn to song:

She was working in a TV show based on her life,
’Bout a gal who weds a gay man—she plays the wife.
How to promote the program?
Marry again? No ma’am!
Can you do that? You just can’t.

So over to the Universal Life website,
Getting certified’s as easy as flying a kite,
She had dough!
She has flow!
And a show!
That’s how she bcame … The Officiant.

Who would’ve guessed as late as last May
That in New York we’d have a marriage so gay?

Now Mr. Sheffield still is taken (watch out C.C.!),
He played that English guy on Mad Men (the thing we really wanna see).
She’s the lady in black, wedding one man to another man.

The divorcée in with the gays:
The officiant named Fran.

Mazel tov to the happy couple!

John Blair, Beto Sutter [NYT]
Still Dictating Orders, This Time at the Altar [NYT]

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Because I write and perform weddings as a professional civil officiant and Celebrant, I was less than thrilled to see this story, for a number of reasons. Not the gay marriage part; I love my gay couples; ( I married the first women to have their ceremony at the Empire State Building, thanks to Colin Cowie. One of my esteemed colleagues, Kim Kirkley, married the second, a duet of men who had been together for 18 years. Both of these historical ceremonies were ignored by the NY Times)

This article, part of a New York Timesseries which is usually about the couple, is all about the officiant, the first misstep. Ms. Drescher, (who I’m sure is a lovely woman) seems to think that a couple’s wedding is an appropriate avenue for promoting her TV show about divorce…..2d misstep.

Ms. Drescher’s quotes in the article seem to insinuate that just about anyone can get ordained and YIPPEE!!! Go do a wedding. For those of you still counting, third gaff.

I think I speak for many of my colleagues when I say that we don’t take marriage lightly. We might write funny, warm, love infused ceremonies that veer wildly from the ‘traditional’ ceremony, but we don’t do these ceremonies to promote ourselves. We do them to unite loving couples, in many combinations, in a relationship that is one of life’s most magnificent milestones.

I find this embarrassing. Sorry.

And my apologies to the NY Times, my favorite paper, if they did cover this and I missed it. I like to be accurate.


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