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What Was Missing From the ‘YU Beacon’ Essay

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I received a very shrewd email regarding the YU Beacon controversy, in which the online student-run newspaper lost its affiliation with Yeshiva University and saw one of its co-editors resign after it refused to permanently erase a sexually themed essay. That piece, “How Do I Even Begin To Explain This,” describes a young Orthodox woman’s premarital dalliance with an Orthodox young man in a hotel room. Though not graphic, it does describe a few furtive details, and concludes, “Between the fumbling, the pain, the pleasure, I convince myself that I’ve learned how to make love.”

But has she? One thing the essay doesn’t mention, as my emailer pointed out, is any method of birth control or STD prevention. In the Orthodox community, not all are onboard with contraception; Agudath Israel, for example, protested a New York City campaign to encourage condom use a few years ago. The thinking goes that talking about condoms encourages promiscuity and premarital sex, and premarital sex is verboten. In fact, something like the converse is true: premarital sex is likely to happen, and therefore you may as well discuss condoms, which can prevent unwanted pregnancies and the transmission of disease. In allowing the open discussion of premarital sex, the YU Beacon was, in effect, promoting safer sex. But it would have been nice if it had, so to speak, gone all the way in that department.

Related: How Do I Even Begin To Explain This [YU Beacon]
Earlier: YU Drops Newspaper Over Essay on Sex

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Marc, the Orthodox perspective is straightforward: no premarital sex – it is forbidden by Halacha.

But you also do not understand the Agudath Israel’s protest against condoms. It is not accurate to say “in the Orthodox community, not all are onboard with contraception.” No Orthodox Posuk (Halacha arbitrator) is. Condoms are forbidden by Halacha for all – even for those married. Please check the Shulchan Aruch and elsewhere to see what the Halacha is.

Poor girl, caught in a culture clash. Part of her wants to be a hot secular woman and part of her is living in Mea Shearim. She figure out who she is ASAP and live out her convictions–or she’ll be dead meat. Sorry baby but that’s the way it is.

I would be happy to lead a discussion on this topic. Y.U. needs someone to facilitate a conversion regarding having loyalty to Y.U. and creating a safe forum for students to discuss issues of concern. RABBI DR. BERNHARD ROSENBERG

I would be happy to lead a discussion on this topic. Y.U. needs someone to facilitate a conversion regarding having loyalty to Y.U. and creating a safe forum for students to discuss issues of concern. Y.U. is a fantastic school and I have spent most of my life there as either a student or teacher. I am greatly disturbed by the bad press this article has created. No other institution can match torah umadah which is communicated at Y.U. Let us graduates and students have pride in our fantastic place of Torah learning . RABBI DR. BERNHARD ROSENBERG

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