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What’s Wrong With This Picture?

A ‘dating persona’ is your questionable Jewish stereotype of the day

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The Battleaxe.(OkCupid)

On the dating Website OkCupid, you can apparently take a “dating persona test” that tells you what type of person you are vis-à-vis relationships, ostensibly so that you can match yourself to good fits on the site. A friend noticed that one of these—“The Battleaxe”—contains some features that maybe uncomfortably jibe with a certain gender-ethnic stereotype? Starting with that picture; continuing to the description (“Controlling? Imperious? Overbearing? Yes, please”); and extending even to its “exact female opposite,” “The Nurse” (who is a “Random Gentle Sex Dreamer,” in contrast to The Battleaxe’s “Deliberate Brutal Love Master”)?

Or maybe not. What do you think? Also, and especially since it is International Women’s Day, is there a problem with The Battleaxe even if you throw out the ethnic angle?

The Dating Persona Test [OkCupid]

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Elle says:

No idea what you’re talking about, actually….

David Sucher says:


That’s not Janeane Garafalo?

Rina says:

I think that to say this is anti-Semitic is reaching, and a bit far at that. After all, just who was it (your friend? you?) who took rather common traits and jumped to the conclusion that it was stereotyping of the worst kind. The test itself gives no further indication from which to draw that conclusion, from what I saw. You’ve taken it a (rather unnecessary) step further, practically implying that it’s offensive because it’s in some way accurate.

As for the battleaxe designation- I think there’s room for a much more interesting/worthwhile conversation there.

This could be many ethnic types, Tyler Perry’s mad black woman, a hispanic woman. If people are worried this is a stereotype and they are this stereotype, they should read Tracy McMillan’s HuffPo Article: “Why You’re not Married,”
1. You’re a Bitch.
Here’s what I mean by bitch. I mean you’re angry. You probably don’t think you’re angry. You think you’re super smart, or if you’ve been to a lot of therapy, that you’re setting boundaries. But the truth is you’re pissed. At your mom. At the military-industrial complex. At Sarah Palin. And it’s scaring men off.

susan says:

I think it’s the author of this piece and not the designer of the on-line “quiz” who has issues with Jewish women. It is he — not the dating site — who heard “battle axe” and thought “Jew.” The picture could be anyone, except possibly an albino Norwegian.


Huh? Where do you get a Jewish stereotype or antiSemitism from this? You are reaching. Plus most of the heads of okCupid of Jewish and avoid stereotypes.

Alana Newhouse says:

It’s true. I DO make a fine divorcee.

Amy 2 says:

It’s true that the illustration could represent any number of other ethnic types – “fiery Latina,” whatever. Unkempt curly hair, a crazed expression, and wild gesticulating will always denote an irrational ethnic woman, possibly a difficult one, Jews included (Bette Midler’s character in the First Wives Club, Lisa Edelstein’s character in Keeping the Faith, Debra Messing on Will and Grace, and zillions of other examples you don’t need me to point out). The tipoff is “sophisticated,” which has been a synonym (sometimes derisive) for “Jewish” for centuries.

Now, if the cartoon Jewess were really hot, I’d be assuaged. Who cares if I’m the Battleaxe, as long as I’m a looker?

Ilana says:

Maybe… but you really have to squint. There are more glaring examples of anti-Semitism out there, and we should be concentrating on them instead of getting riled up about some dumb graphic on a dating site.

The only thing that makes me really side-eye the graphic is the “sophisticated”, combined with other traits like loud, pushy, big-haired, etc. “Sophisticated” has since the Enlightenment been code for “cosmopolitan”, which is code for Jew.

Dan Klein says:

Other question: Why is the personality metaphor a weapon that hasn’t been used in almost a millennia? At least the vatican still uses halberds.

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