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Rosy Scenarios

In the latest installment of “Tell Me,” Tablet Magazine’s illustrated question-and-answer column, we consider coincidences, congruities, and how the past informs the present

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Love that is a bridge to a personal past and heritage places a heavy and, perhaps, unwanted burden on the person who is “loved” for such a reason. In fact, that person is not loved, but is merely a means to the goal of remembering and nostalgia.
Love–and other feelings–are relationships, which only exist in the presence of real, concrete, complex people who do things with each other. These things may include or be informed by memory and heritage, but neither replaces the stuff of relationship: caring, compassion, humor, respect, support. And to define a particular kind of love: your beshert is that person who will take you as you are, but in whose presence you become a better person than you were.

Malachi says:

Rose is the state flower in New York too. Still the best part of life here I think is the seasonal nature of it. Every fall now for several years I’ve put 50+ crocus bulbs in the bank by my kitchen window. I’m never even sure if I’ll be here to see it the way I’m on the road with work but I know they’ll bloom, and someone will. As sure as I am that the sugar will run soon and the Leonid Meteor showers will fall later and and another season warm will come with another season of snow following. Continuity and faith are part of the fabric of live when you pay attention to the living world. Love as a bridge to the past seems like a given. In my family love is expressed, and my family is my conduit to the past. I traveled home to visit as some family in the hospital. I baked a challah and brought it with me. My mother said the bread was wonderful, and that it reminded her of her father who was a baker. And that she thought he’d be proud of me. He died when I was 8 and I can’t even remember the sound of his voice, but somehow he managed to still be there, when we needed him this weekend.

jacqueline says:

who knows how ‘true’ the stories we tell ourselves that bonds us to the ones we chose to love. because love is a choice to jump into the unknown and trust that this other will lead us into the future that is brighter and vastly different to anything we could have imagined on our own. and once we have taken that leap, those initial points of connection will seem absurd and ridiculous compared the real relationship that you have forged together.

Eileen P. says:

Love is not only a bridge to the past, it is also an investment in your future. After 35 years, 3 children and a grandchild on the way, I feel very rich.

Liana, my creative cousin ….. Is love rooted in gratitude just as a rose is rooted in soil ? I think gratitude is the first cousin of love that is the healthy bridge between past and the future. That being said by baby’s name in Rosa … go figure ! oxo

how is rosa!?

Dear Liana,

Shoshana Raselle was your grandmother and she was a no nonsense kind of Rose who loved with her whole smart hart . Personally I think there is room for all kinds of love for very many people even those that you might not want to adopt. I love your smart art!!!

MichaelR says:

Oh, come on. You can’t be serious.
Stop thinking, for your own sake!

follow the trail of the spicy chicken wings…oh, the remembrance

I think what is being discussed here revolves around Jung`s theory of syncronicity

I’ve said that least 4225553 times. The problem this like that is they are just too compilcated for the average bird, if you know what I mean

I am not real superb with English but I come up this really leisurely to translate.

I dugg some of you post as I cogitated they were very useful invaluable.

Exactly what I was searching for, thank you for posting.


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Rosy Scenarios

In the latest installment of “Tell Me,” Tablet Magazine’s illustrated question-and-answer column, we consider coincidences, congruities, and how the past informs the present